The other day, I messed up.
It wasn’t really a big deal but I immediately started kicking myself in the mental butt.
Later on, that same inner voice talked me into junk food and procrastination instead of a healthy snack and knocking a big chunk off my todo list.
Later still, the inner voice followed up with a whole lot more mental butt-kicking (rather gleeful mental butt-kicking, I might add).
Then it dawned on me: I’m my own frenemy.
To which my inner-frenemy said, “Wow, you’re like some kind of genius or something.”
Sometimes I’m pretty nice to myself. I point out my good qualities, give myself props where they’re due, encourage myself to the right thing and forgive myself when I don’t. But it’s just so much easier to undermine and snipe at myself than to build myself up.
How scary is that?
I’d never talk to anybody else like that and, if anybody else tore me down like that, I’d kick that so-and-so to the curb (emphasis on kick). If somebody talked to my kids that way…well, it wouldn’t be pretty.
So why do I let me talk to me that way?
And how do I go from being my frenemy to my own bff?
Having trouble spotting the frenemy in you or others? This may help…
How about you? How do you talk to yourself? Are you your own frenemy or best friend? And how do you turn your inner-frenemy into your inner-bestie?