Life List Club

Are You the Main Character of Your Life? by Jess Witkins

Welcome to another Life List Club Friday. Today, I’m at Jenny Hansen’s, fessing up to my not so secret love of tacos. And, over here, we have the super-funny and always-cool Jess Witkins with us, talking about dreams and fear and cute little zombie kittnens. Take it away Jess…

Are You The Main Character of Your Life?

Do you ever start to dream about the things you’re doing, watching, or reading?  I didn’t use to.  But lately my dreams have taken on a very suspense/horror feeling about them.  I think I need to stop reading Dan Brown books and watching zombie/vampire/witch shows before bed (but I so love Walking Dead and Vampire Diaries!)

But then I started having so many dreams, I wondered if they did in fact have some meaning for me.  What can I say?  I’m into signs.  I just do a terrible job of following them.  In all of my wild, running for my life, defeat the monster dreams, I was the main character.  And when I looked at my normal life, I had to wonder if I take such a lead role.  Anyone else know what I’m talking about?

I’m a pretty confident individual, but I’m also my worst critique.  And I hate to fail!  I know, I know, who does?  I hate failing at anything.  And for the last couple weeks, I was feeling like I failed a lot.  I had to stay late at work several nights when things came up like employee accidents or additional meetings.  Working as a sales manager, it’s my job to be efficient with time management.  Some days that just isn’t the case.  And since I stayed late at work, it spiraled into me being late for my date with my honey.  Much of our night was shot because he was irritable at me for being late and I at him for not understanding I couldn’t get out of work.  But even when I’m done with work, work is in my head.  Whether it’s a day job, our dream job, or even the “to do” list around the house, I’m sure I’m not the only one who gets sucked into the guilt-ridden black hole vortex of You Suck Galaxy.  It’s governed by the Zombie Space Captain, Brains Gobyebye, perhaps you’ve heard of him?  

So I remind myself that the only person’s actions I can change are my own.  And while I don’t have actual zombies chasing after me, I do have the same metaphorical ones that you do.  I call them time sucks or derailers, things that get in the way of achieving our goals.  I remind myself that I should be the main character of my life, and like any good story, I’m going to run into obstacles, but I must do my best to overcome them.  

What are your dreams telling you?  Are you the main character in your life?  What zombie time sucks are standing in your way right now?  Care to vote for your favorite zombie movie?   

Actual Photo of Zombie Space Captain Brains Gobyebye:  Do not be fooled by his cuddly exterior!

Bio:  Jess Witkins claims the title Perseverance Expert.  She grew up in a small Wisconsin town as the much younger youngest sibling of four, she’s witnessed the paranormal, jumped out of a plane, worked in retail, traveled to exotic locations like Italy, Ireland, and Shipshewana, Indiana, and she’s eaten bologna and lived to tell about it!  She deals with it all and writes about it!  Come along on her midwest adventures; Witkins promises to keep it honest and entertaining.  Go ahead, SUBSCRIBE, you know you want to.
Follow on Twitter:  @jesswitkins


There’s more Life List Club Friday fun to be had. Check out the blogroll in the sidebar for more blog-hopping merriment.

18 thoughts on “Are You the Main Character of Your Life? by Jess Witkins

    1. I think that’s an especially important rule for moms to follow. You ladies give of yourselves a lot and you need to remember that taking time for you helps you be a better mom too!

  1. Wonderful post, Jess, and I can’t help it — zombie kitten is just too cute to resist! The idea of being the main character of our lives is a great one, and one that I’m going to keep in the forefront of my mind as I face down all the time-draining Vortices of Doom (giggling over the plural there) in my life. 😀

    1. Good luck Lena! Keep us posted on your progress and let us know how can we help. The LLC is here for you all the way!

  2. Great post, Jess! I love “the guilt-ridden black hole vortex of You Suck Galaxy” – yes, we’ve all rented space there before we bought in the “Galaxy of ButtInChair.”

    I’ll confess something – I can’t watch zombie movies. They either make me laugh or give me crappy dreams. And they always, always feel like a Time-Suck. But that’s just me, the girl of 2011 TV Moratorium.

    Thanks for sharing the inside of your brain with us. 🙂

    1. Ah yes, I’ve been to the Galaxy of ButtInChair too. It comes with Venti green tea lattes and a bagel as a welcome package! The neighbors there are so supportive and friendly! But we’ve got to do something about these lawn flamingos!

  3. Hi Jess. We all have our demons and many of us are not even aware that they are shadowing us everywhere we go. You rightly point out that we all have to deal with them and have to overcome them, like any protagonist in a novel. Nicely done!

  4. One of the lessons for Warrior Writers Boot Camp is to develop the antagonist first, because our protagonist is closer to us than we think. It’s easier for us to flesh out the human traits of the protag when we can see ourselves as them. It’s tougher to do the opposite in real life. See ourselves as the protagonist. What a good lesson to learn about oneself.

  5. I love the idea of being the star of your life story. Sometimes I think of the struggless and disappointments in my life like parts of a story. I figure the hero always has to have dark moments. Ummm…as long as the writer of my life story is NOT George R.R. Martin!

    Such a great post, Jess. Thanks for being here.

  6. Late to the party — but had to comment. You hit my life on the head! Star, yes! Inhabitant/Mayor of the “You Suck Galaxy” (love it! Not sucking, the name) Double yes.
    Thanks Sonia for having Jess here.

  7. Hi, Sonia. I’ve been away for a while. Explanations coming soon… Very cool post. I have followed instructions and have subscribed to Jess’ blog/Twitter. Take care.
    Hi, Jess. My big timesuck is my 11 hour day job. Captain Brains Gobyebye doesn’t ever make it out to California, right? *awaits reply nervously*
    Have a great weekend you two… er, three. Sorry, Captain.


  8. Hi Jess,

    Great post! Your title reminds me of the romantic comedy, “The Holiday.” Kate Winslet’s character, Iris, ponders whether she is the leading lady in her life or the supportive sidekick. After watching classic romance movies, she realizes she wants to take control of her life, to have gumption, and start being the woman she knows she can be instead of the doormat that she’s been.

    We don’t always have control over our daily schedule (ie day job), with responsibilities to others a top priority. But we have to carve out time for ourselves so that we can be the lover, mother, sister, friend, etc. that everyone needs us to be. We owe it to them and to ourselves to be a little “selfish” at times–in a good way.

    I guess that’s the theme of my blog, “Margarita Moments.” That’s how important I believe mini-escapes are to our emotional and physical health. Thanks for sharing, Jess, and I’ll check out your blog soon. Sounds fun, although Zombie kitten is a bit on the creepy side for me. LOL

  9. Right now, I am seeing a movie in my head where we are Girl Superheroes battling our way out of You Suck Galaxy, because I am so often right there with you! Sometimes I see everything I “have” to do that isn’t writing as a zombie stumbling after me looking to eat my brain and all the words in it. The good news is, zombies are clumsy and easily beaten down – at least if my “Walking Dead” addiction is teaching me the right life lessons : ).

What's on your mind?

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s