All of us have asked ourselves this question at one time or another. Some of us ask it a lot. And it can mean different things depending on how we ask it.
Maybe we’re facing a challenge and wondering if our skills are up to par.
Maybe we’ve just put ourselves out there and we wonder whether our efforts hit the nail on the head…or missed the mark.
In either case, we can use “am I good enough?” to spur ourselves on, to get ourselves asking the questions we need to figure out how we can get better.
But sometimes we’re really asking if we are good enough. If who we are, especially what we look like and how “cool” we are is good enough.
Good enough to fit in.
Good enough to be accepted.
Good enough to be loved.
Those of us who grew up not quite fitting in know the pain of “am I good enough?” all too well, even if we’ve grown past it as adults. Then again, even those who belonged to the it-crowd probably asked themselves this question now and then. It’s a very human question.
Kristen Lamb’s recent post on Michael Jeffries’ (CEO of that clothing brand) abhorrent marketing strategy really touched me. Check out her post. It’ll make you think.
The older I’ve gotten, the more important “am I good enough?” has gotten for me, especially as a parent. I am a role-model to two (so far) impressionable human beings. How I ask and answer this question is critical to their development.
On the one hand, I want to always be growing and learning. Good enough is rarely good enough, at least for things we are passionate about doing or things we must do well. I’m not terribly concerned with becoming an expert at changing my car’s oil but I am determined to become an awesome parent, a spectacular (and humble) human being and a great writer.
On the other hand, I want my children to know that they are always good enough to be loved just as they are. Each one of us is precious beyond compare. What you look like, wear or posses does not make who you are.
Beauty and fancy things have their perks but, in the end, they can do nothing for us a good character and a loving heart cannot do better.
What do you think? How do attitudes like Jeffries’ affect our self-image, especially kids’? How should we ask and answer “am I good enough?”